What can a baby teach you about mindfulness? September 30 2017, 0 Comments
Today I wanted to share a mindfulness tip. 3 months ago Laney made me a mama! It has been the most joyful experience of my life, but there have been moments where I've been tested (like many mothers would understand) and I've had to call on my own mindfulness practice to get me through!
When Laney was about 3 or 4 weeks old she became very unsettled overnight. Her clockwork sleeping and feeding pattern went out the window for a number of weeks! Was it a growth spurt, was it wind? Who knows! She was often awake from 7, 8 or 9pm at night until 1, 2, 3 or even 5am once before she would finally settle. It was tough going for a while. I found it so much easier to navigate using my mindfulness practice, in particularly the pillars of patience, acceptance and non-judgement!
In the wee hours of the night whenever Laney woke up unsettled or looking for another feed I had two options...
1. I could look at the clock and judge the hour as 'good' or 'bad'.
Clock watching + judging led to thoughts like... "OMG I'm going to be soooo tired tomorrow!" which led to feelings of frustration ("what's wrong with her?"), anger ("why won't she go to sleep?") and self-doubt ("what am I doing wrong?") It would result in me getting impatient with the poor little bebe who was still trying to adjust to the world. This state of mind wasn't conducive to her or my wellbeing, leaving me feeling all worked up and finding it difficult to get back to sleep once she finally drifted off! It wasn't a very pretty picture. I would feel super tired and mummy guilt would set in for getting so grumpy. Perhaps you've been here and can relate?
2. I could look at the clock out of curiosity and choose NOT to judge the time (or Laney waking, needing a feed or being unsettled) as 'good' or 'bad'.
Instead I could be curious and accept the time for what it was ("ah interesting it's 3am"), not attach any specific meaning to the time, and NOT wish for things to be different, trusting that some things run on their own time and are out of my control. I could choose patience and compassion for myself ("I'm doing the best I can") and Laney ("she's a little bub, she's not deliberately trying to piss me off!")
Do you know which option makes me feel much calmer and more content? Option 2 of course!! But you know what else? It takes consistent practice. Just as I'd nailed this Laney started to sleep through! Which leads to another post... the super helpful mantra 'this too shall pass.'
If you're in the mood for some self enquiry I invite you to consider these questions:
Where in your life are you judging things as 'good' or 'bad' and allowing that to negatively affect you?
Perhaps you're judging the weather and letting that dictate your day and mood?
Perhaps you've judged someone or yourself?
Where in your life are you not accepting things for what they are and wishing things were different?
Where are you wishing to be further ahead?
When and where do you tend to find yourself being impatient?
Does being caught in traffic wind you up?
This is one way I'm using my mindfulness practice in motherhood so far but it's completely applicable to other areas of your life too. If you found this blog post helpful or know someone who would benefit from it, please share!
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Overcoming sabotage: Guest interview with psychologist Georgie Beames November 25 2016, 0 Comments
I know, I know, it has been a while since I've published a blog post!
For many months, in fact ever since I started my business Yogamona, I've wanted to video interview guest experts across a range of areas such as yoga, mindfulness, meditation, personal development, healing/transformation, mind set and spirituality. I guess a little old self-sabotage of my own has been holding me back from just doing it! I've made excuses about not knowing what technology to use, postponed interview dates, couldn't decide who to interview, you name it I've pulled out every sabotage trick in the book! So it seems divinely orchestrated that my very first guest video interview is on the very topic of sabotage. A topic that comes up frequently with my coaching clients and for me personally as well.
For this very first guest video interview I have Georgie Beames, a psychologist who works exclusively with women around emotional eating and food in her private practice and via her highly regarded online programs. Sabotage is a common area that Georgie identifies holding women back in relation to finding food freedom. In fact we both agree that sabotage holds people back from freedom full stop. Whether you have challenges with food, your weight, emotional eating or simply want to understand more about self-sabotage you will absolutely love this interview.
+ What is sabotage
+ How sabotage shows up and what it's really about
+ How to identify your saboteur/s
+ What to do to overcome it
If you would like to sign up to Georgie's next free 5 day Food Freedom Challenge which kicks off in January 2018 sign up here.
You can also read more about Georgie and her work around emotional eating and finding food freedom at http://www.georgiebeames.com/
Want to find out more about how to overcome sneaky sabotage? I have a full module on this topic in my Soulful Goals Online Program. Find out more here.
Lacking clarity or meaning in your life? Do this. August 31 2016, 0 Comments
We've all been there. That place of indecision, not knowing what we want, how to move forward, wondering if this is as good as it gets, considering giving up on our hopes and dreams. I've been there and sometimes I return there temporarily, although it's not a place I love to hang out anymore. I'm a strange creature who generally likes change, who gets bored quickly and has always taken responsibility for my own happiness. If something isn't working I change it, I get to know what's underneath it and what I can do about it. If you're lacking clarity or meaning in your life, feeling like something is missing read the full blog post here.
How to cure Mondayitis June 05 2016, 0 Comments
Are you feeling meh about starting a new week?
I know I've been finding it hard to get out of bed on these fresh Winter Melbourne mornings!
Why not try taking 5 minutes to simply be before you start your day? It's just 5 minutes. To find out my tip on how to cure Mondayitis click here.
The power of a full moon ritual May 21 2016, 0 Comments
Whether you believe in the powerful energy of the full moon or not, using this time as an opportunity to stop and reflect can be extremely potent. I'm a moon gazer, I've always been captivated by her beauty, it's hard not to be drawn to her hanging up there illuminating the night sky.
Whether it's the period of retrograde or this impending Sagittarius full moon, boy have I been out of sorts this week! My laptop packed it in, my wifi was on the blink and I've been super emotional and easily triggered. All of my doubts and limiting beliefs have come creeping back in to say hello, calling me to take notice. I've been questioning am I enough, how will I get everything done, why is this happening, should I just give up? I noticed myself mid week slipping into victim mode and having a full-on pity party. Read the full blog post here.
The one thing holding you back May 15 2016, 0 Comments
I work with women who are seeking more. Not in a "I'll never be happy" kind of way but in an intuitive way. They hear a little voice inside, underneath the crap our ego feeds us that we are stuck with our lot in life, a voice that whispers "come in this direction, there is another way." Perhaps this is you? These women seek a different life, a happier life for themselves. Perhaps less stress, less overwhelm, less anxiety. More calm, deep inner peace, ease, flow, more soul, connection, presence, a greater purpose, more joy and passion.
I understand. I totally get this. I've been there before. I know that voice all too well, the one that says there is something else, there is more out there, I am capable of more. The inner voice, the knowing inside that believes in magic and the limitless opportunities in life that open up once we are ready to believe and receive. That voice has become my friend, it continues to guide me on my journey. To read the full blog post click here.
The life-changing magic of the Desire Map April 10 2016, 0 Comments
For those of you who know me or have been following my blog for a while, you will know that I'm a HUGE fan of the Desire Map.
There is so much power in declaring your desires and setting intentions. Something magical happens when we get crystal clear on what we want and then go after it. Do you know what I'm talking about? Read the full blog post here.
The art of saying no April 01 2016, 0 Comments
Setting boundaries and learning to say no is a huge topic! It's something that I'm fascinated by and has been coming up for me for sometime. I used to be a serial 'good girl' which equated to being a 'yes girl' and a 'put-myself-last-girl.' I used to take pride in my ability to do it all! But my inability to say no has led me to serious burnout on a number of occasions. Leaving me wondering when will I ever learn? While I'm much better than I have been in the past I still revert back to old ways at times and need to keep myself in check. To read the full blog post click here.
9 reasons you're not achieving your goals March 26 2016, 0 Comments
It can be easy to feel frustrated and disillusioned when we put our hopes and dreams out into the world and they don't eventuate soon after. You might've read that all you have to do to manifest your deepest desires is put it out there to the Universe and abracadabra the Universe will conspire to make it happen! As if by magic. But then nudda, or get distracted and lose sight of what your goals were in the first place. It can be disheartening I know. You might be wondering when is it going to be my turn? When am I going to be happier, have more money, find a man, get a better job, loose that 5 kg or nail that tricky yoga pose?
Here are nine reasons why your dreams, goals and intentions might not be coming to fruition. Read the full blog post here.
How to move through challenging times with grace March 16 2016, 0 Comments
My year started on such a high, I felt rejuvenated and refreshed after a lovely Christmas break and ready to take on 2016. I felt totally in flow! Towards the end of January and into February however, I saw my energy slowly shift and plummet. I began to feel flat, exhausted and more negative than my usual optimistic self. Despite my best intentions and ginormous tool kit of self-help strategies and stress management hacks, I felt like life was happening to me. Sure, there were a series of events that have contributed and I could always blame the full moons, eclipses and intense energy of recent times, but I won't. My inner critic, my mean girl was turned up to the maximum volume! How did I get there? To read the full blog post click here.
5 ways to get through Valentine's Day if you're single (or not) February 14 2016, 0 Comments
We've all been there right?
Dreading that day of love coming up, knowing it will be spent once again without a romantic partner. Wishing the day would pass by quickly without a big fuss. Hoping it doesn't fall on a Friday or Saturday night because you'll be left stranded at home with a video and a bottle of wine, drinking alone and feeling like a misery guts while all of your mates are out on hot dates with their lovers? Here are five ways to get through Valentine's Day this year. Read the full blog post here.
February is the new January - 20 questions to ask yourself February 07 2016, 0 Comments
Holy Moly! Where did January go?
I don't know about you but January flew past, leaving me with very little time to finish my intentions for the year or map out a strategy for my biz and life goals. I'm holding on to those New Year vibes though. Last weekend I spent a gorgeous Nature, Sound and Creativity Play Date session with Business and Creativity coach Clare Greig. Together we hiked up Camel's Hump on Mount Macedon and Clare took me through the most beautiful guided visualisation with a Tibetan singing bowl. It was incredible being out in nature and gave me a totally different perspective. It got me back in the mode of contemplating what I really want this year. Among the many insights, I visualised a beautiful new office space (very different from my current dining table!) and helping more gorgeous clients crush their limiting beliefs and step into a life they love through my 1:1 coaching, weekly meditation classes, Desire Map workshops and retreats.
This year, February is the new January! In fact any month is perfect for reflecting and setting new intentions! So go and find a cosy spot, grab a note book and a pen. Here are 20 questions to ask yourself... To read the full blog post click here.
3 tips to ease back into work after the holidays January 14 2016, 0 Comments
I went back to my day job earlier this week after having over two weeks off. The longest break I've had in a while! I had such a wonderful break and felt refreshed and inspired heading back into the city on Monday. Returning to my day job got me thinking about a quote I loved from my coaching course with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition.
"Find work that you love or a way to love the work that you do."
What is your relationship with your work?
Last year I spent too much time wishing I was working full time in my business. I was pushing too hard and at times I wasn't truly present and grateful for my day job, which I really do love. I'm blessed to work with amazing colleagues and inspirational clients.
Here are three of my top tips to help ease you back into work after the holidays so you're not left starting the year feeling resentful or disheartened about your work. Read the full blog post here.
What I want for you in 2016 January 01 2016, 0 Comments
Happy New Year! As we enter the first day of 2016, I feel inspired, full of hope and possibility. How about you? Perhaps you're not feeling this way at all. Regardless of how you're feeling and whether you like it or not, there is so much talk of New Year's resolutions and goals at this time. We can easily get into thinking we aren't enough, didn't achieve enough and need to be someone or do something totally different to make the new year better. Or worse still, if you're feeling in a funk and everyone else is all up beat and excited, it can only make you feel worse. Start where you are. Sit with whatever you're feeling today. But know this.
This is what I want for you this year…
Less stress. Less overwhelm. Less anxiety. Less worry.
Less exhaustion. Less burnout. Fewer meltdowns.
Less numbing of emotions, mindless boozing and T. V.
Less procrastinating. Less self-doubt. Less self-sabotage.
Read the full blog post here.
How to utilise the energy of the New Year December 13 2015, 0 Comments
Yoga, what is all the fuss about? November 08 2015, 0 Comments
Are you one of those people who think that you can’t go to a yoga class because you're unable to touch your toes?
Feeling like you have to be a certain type of person, or have certain flexibility super powers to even enter into one of those flashy yoga studios?
All around you the media is telling you how amazing and beneficial yoga is, while you may be thinking that yoga is for made for some other kind of species than you? To read what the fuss is all about click here.
12 things I learned in my first year of business October 23 2015, 0 Comments
It's 16 months since my website and business went "live". The idea to start Yogamona came to me six months before that. I initially thought I might follow in my mum's footsteps and go into gift and home wares but I wanted to have a range of yoga wear as well. Under some good advice it was suggested to focus on yoga wear and accessories. A business with yoga at the heart of it seemed much more aligned with my interests and passion for yoga, meditation and holistic health. It made perfect sense. To read the full blog post click here.
Why meditation rocks and where to start! October 14 2015, 0 Comments
For those who have been part of the Yogamona community for some time you will no doubt have caught on that I'm a massive fan of meditation. It's such a big part of my life purpose and "my story". It really all started back in my undergraduate degree in Occupational Therapy over 15 years ago where we were introduced to relaxation strategies in the form of breathing, guided imagery and progressive muscle relaxation. We were taught these strategies as a form of stress relief by triggering the relaxation response, the opposite of the stress (fight or flight) response. They were particularly useful for patients with chronic illness, mental health conditions and those recovering from ill health. I taught relaxation on and off throughout my clinical practice. Little did I realise at the time but what we were taught at University and what I went on to teach my patients were the underpinnings of a mindfulness and meditation practice. To read the full blog post click here.
5 Steps to Find Your Shine! September 03 2015, 0 Comments
A few weeks ago my gorgeous friend Chara Caruthers from Bliss, Body and Soul and I ran a 5 day challenge on how to Find Your Shine. It was so much fun! We absolutely loved everyone's insights, beautiful pictures and the engagement online. For those who missed out on the challenge or if like me, you're coming out of a long, cold hibernation period where energy has been low - read on to get a glimpse of our top tips for finding your shine! You might want to grab your journal and a pen to write down the questions and spend some time answering them.
We believe the key to finding your shine starts with KNOWING and LOVING yourself. Ready...? Let's get started! To read the full blog post click here.
How I lost my yoga mojo July 26 2015, 0 Comments
Is anyone else finding this winter particularly challenging? Low energy, wanting to hibernate? Eating twice as much, having super strong sugar cravings, not wanting to exercise, just wanting to stay wrapped up in bed with a cup of tea? I am the first to put up my hand! I love the winter, I love snuggling in bed longer, rugging up in a winter coat and beanie, the fresh, crisp winter air as it hits my face. It makes me feel alive. But I don't like what else winter has brought with it.
I have a confession to make. To read the full blog post click here.
Can procrastination be a form of intuition? June 26 2015, 0 Comments
As most of you will know if you follow me on social media or read my blog, I'm a huge fan of Danielle LaPorte and the Desire Map. At the start of the year I ordered her Truth Bomb card deck, which is AMAZING! When it arrived I decided to pull a card out to place on my desk.
The card I pulled got me thinking.
The first reason this card got me so intrigued was that starting my own business has really shone a light on my procrastination habits. I've analysed the why I procrastinate, where it might come from, what is behind it and ways to overcome it until the cows have come home! I'm at peace with the fact that I still procrastinate much more than I would like. I realise it's a deeply ingrained habit that will take time and patience to re-wire and change. I'm ok with that. Acceptance and compassion have become my friends when it comes to my procrastination habits. Read the full blog post here.
7 ways to be more mindful this May May 19 2015, 0 Comments
If mindfulness wasn’t already enough of a buzzword, it has hit celebrity status this month with the campaign Mindful in May. Are you participating? I have been, although I have to admit my inbox is currently getting a thrashing and as we're about to enter Day 20 of the challenge, I'm having trouble keeping up. So what is the solution?
I’m trying not to beat myself up for not keeping up every single day and have been introducing mindfulness into my daily life in other ways as much as possible. I hope you can do the same and see mindfulness become part of your routine well after the month of May is over. To read the full blog post click here.
Home yoga - just what the doctor ordered! April 29 2015, 0 Comments
I have to admit, starting my own business while working in a day job can be tough. I have to put all of my self-love strategies into action or I frequently end up run down. I love my life but it is chock-a-block and some days making it to one of my favourite yoga studios is near impossible with a to-do list the length of my arm tugging at me!
With Autumn feeling more like Winter so far in Melbourne I've intuitively felt like creating more space and upping the self-care from the comfort of my home. At times, the extent of my home yoga practice has been working on my head stand or opening my hips up in pigeon pose when I'm feeling tight. While I've dabbled in various free classes online and YouTube videos, I thought I'd check out an online yoga studio called the Yoga Collective a little more closely. To read the full blog post click here.
Self-love: getting to the heart of happiness April 26 2015, 0 Comments
On the blog recently in the lead up to Love to Live: Getting to the heart of happiness workshop, I wrote about how integral self-love was in increasing my happiness and how I stumbled across the practice (perhaps out of desperation!) I wouldn't say I was unhappy but I was severely burnt out. Practising self-love suddenly made my life easier. The more I practised it, the more fulfilled I was. I was able to nurture myself without seeking it solely from others. I became calmer, more in flow, more in touch with my intuition and my life purpose. I was at peace with myself, had greater confidence in myself, felt empowered that I could do and be anything I wanted. I stopped looking for love outside of myself. Don't get me wrong giving and receiving love to/from others is also magical and there is nothing that lights me up more than time with my nieces or nephew or my family. But learning how to better nurture myself was a game changer. To read my top tips on practising self-love click here.
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